Many of my friends have noticed that I’m going by a new moniker these days and may be confused by the sudden change. Here’s my attempt to explain.
So, did you get married?
No – I will never marry. Ever.
Ok, then who’s Kasmir?
Kasmir (kaz-MEER) is my middle name given to me by mom so I would have a cool sounding name. Aisha Kasmir just sounds badass, right?
Alright. Then why drop “O’Brien”?
Sigh, that is a long, depressing story that I hope to hash out one day and you’ll definitely read about it. In short, I have wanted to change my last name since I was 15 when my father dropped us for a conniving family of criminals. He died in August and instead of putting things in order so his loved ones wouldn’t be burdened by his death, he footed me and my brother with the bill. This is just one of a long list of terrible and hurtful things he’s done to us.
I thought it fitting to keep Kasmir as my last name to carry on the maternal instead of paternal line. It doesn’t matter that much – it’s only a name. But it’s a cool name that my very cool mom gave me.
That must’ve been a lot of paperwork!
Nah, I didn’t legally change it. Maybe one day when I have the time. But for now my professional name is Aisha Kasmir, Ms. Kasmir if you’re nerdy.
Isn’t this kind of soon after his death? Aren’t you overreacting? I’ve been through the same thing.
That’s unfortunate. I’ll just leave this here.
Hint taken. Anything else?
No, I’m fine, really. Thank you. If you have any more questions, please leave them in the comments.